You Ask, Guys Answer

17 Jul 2011

Want to know what the men in your life are really thinking? We recruited some men-about-town to play Agony Uncles...

You asked: Do my lady muscles turn men off?
I’m an absolute fitness freak and work out five times a week. I’ve always considered myself to have a good body. However, I recently dated a guy for a few weeks, but he dumped me and has now been going around telling people that my body is too mannish. I feel so bad that my physique, which I’ve tried so hard to cultivate, is putting men off. Should I stop going to the gym, or say ‘stuff him’? Jo, Silicon Oasis

Comedian Wonho says: Your healthy lifestyle is something we all strive for, and it’s an admirable thing. You should not stop going to the gym. If the guy who you dated didn’t like your physique, he’s not the one for you. A lot of men out there will really appreciate who you are and what you stand for. This one clearly doesn’t deserve you.

You asked: Is he really into me?
When I see my boyfriend, he’s incredibly loving towards me. It’s great because I’m really into him, but the problem is, as soon as we’re apart, he acts as if I don’t even exist. He never calls me when he says he will and if he goes out with his friends, all I get is a lousy text. It’s like, when his friends are around, he’s too busy to have a conversation with me. Do you think I’m overreacting or is he just not that into me? Shahd, Sharjah

TV presenter Layne says: I don’t think you’ve got anything to worry about. When a guy goes out with the boys, his attention is on them, not his girlfriend (sorry, ladies!) Speaking honestly, you’re lucky that he actually bothers to text you. So yes, in this case I do think you’re overreacting.

You asked: how can I get him back?
My boyfriend and I were together for two years before he broke up with me. That was a year and a half ago. We still hang out as friends but I can’t seem to move on from the relationship. I want him back and I am willing to try anything to make that happen. The problem is, every time I try to talk to him about it, he just changes the subject and gives me the ‘time heals all wounds’ spiel. I know he loved me when we were together and I don’t think those feelings have gone. How do I get him back? Kimberly, Al Ain

Viva Ht bachelor Andy says: The best way for you to get him back is to focus on making yourself the most attractive you have ever been. Not only will you feel great about yourself, but he’s also likely to suddenly realise what he’s missing out on. If, however, he truly has moved on, you need to start moving on too. I’m sure there are lots of hunky guys out there who would love to take you out on a date.

You asked: Will he cheat again?
I have been with my husband for nine years and I always thought we were happily married, but recently he confessed to cheating on me while on a lads' holiday. He says it was only the one time and he’s beside himself with regret, but I just don’t know what to do. Should I forgive him and try to save our marriage, or is it beyond repair? Anna, Old Town

Wonho says: In short, people make mistakes, and while his is a BIG one, I don’t believe it’s beyond repair. If you can find it in your heart to forgive him, I think you should try to give it another go. You’ve had nine years with the guy and it seems a shame to throw it all away over one mistake. That said, everyone handles situations differently. You need to ask yourself if you can get over this. If not, it might be time to call it quits.