JLo is a Woman Scorned
Having divorced from her husband of seven years Marc Anthony, with whom she has three-year-old twins Emme and Max, Jennifer Lopez should be at her lowest ebb, depressed, lonely and confused – she was after all said to be giving up her LA residence in order to move to New York to save her marriage just a week before it finally collapsed – yet the singer actually looks to be at the top of her game...
Gracing the front cover of Vanity Fair looking hotter than ever, JLo almost seems unfazed by the failure of her third marriage – she was previously married to waiter Ojani Noa (1997-1998) and dancer Cris Judd (2001-2003). Usually secretive about her private life Jennifer also opened up about her relationship with Marc, discussing its failure and her mission to find love, again.
Many sources claim the couple’s marriage was doomed after just three years together, citing Marc’s jealousy over Jennifer’s return to work as the main cause of their disputes. And JLo agrees insisting the decision to refocus on her career was a difficult move.
“We had the first three years of our marriage just for us. I wasn’t working, it was mainly about him,” she revealed. “Then we got pregnant. Then it became about the kids. And then I started working again…”
Adding, “This was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to face. I really wanted this family to work. That was my biggest dream, and I worked hard at it. We both did… Sometimes it doesn’t work – and that’s sad.”
Marc, who is thought to be trying to win Jen back, is said to have become jealous when his wife became the breadwinner with a source spilling, “Marc has always been a very dominating husband. He wants to control everything Jennifer does. He would micro-manage their lives together. I know she tried very hard, and for a long time, to act like it didn’t bother her, but I know it did. A lot. He would hover over her, and it was almost antagonising. She couldn’t breathe.”
Yet, ever resolute to follow her passions, Jennifer didn’t let Marc stand in her way and used her success as a judge on American Idol to act as a platform from which to then relaunch her solo career. Suddenly Marc and JLo weren’t on the same level anymore. She was a superstar again, a fact that no doubt dented his inflated ego and hugely boosted hers.
Determined for her relationship breakdown not to get in her way she bragged, “I think I’m a really great performer. I think I’m a really great actress. I feel confident in those things – that’s a better way to say it. I’m not as gifted a vocalist as some of the girls that are out there, but I do know I communicate.”
And it seems the execs at American Idol agree with her demands of $20m [Dhs73.4m] for season 11 being granted – that’s a payrise of $8m [Dhs29m]. A source said, “FOX really want her to stay in the show.”
Further crediting her hard work, JLo is said to be receiving a star on the Hollywood walk of fame next year. She said of the news, “It’s like all that hard work and now something permanent is going to be there... I made my mark.”
It seems the singer-cum-actress’ confidence extended from her career through to her relationship with the 42-year-old admitting she cared too much about herself to stay in her marriage. She admitted, “I’m a hopeless romantic and passionate person when it comes to love.”
Adding, “It’s not that I didn’t love myself before. Sometimes we don’t realise that we’re compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself – if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now.”
Trust is said to have been a big issue in the couple’s relationship. An insider said, “She never cheated on him, but he’d read her texts and emails. She caught him red-handed earlier this year.” It’s also thought Marc’s temper was an issue with the mole adding, “He has a tendency to throw things when he gets into a rage – pictures, vases, remote controls. And he would kick things too.”
Another insider also once reported that JLo hired spies to watch over her husband to ensure he didn’t cheat, insisting, “Lopez used to send her assistant on tour with Anthony while she stayed at home with their twins. She wanted reports back so he didn’t cheat on her.”
While it’s obvious, despite her bold front, that she is hurt JLo claims she plans to keep Marc in her life for the sake of the kids. “He will always be in our lives,” she said. “He will always hold a special place in my heart as the father of my children.” However, hinting that the demise of their marriage was largely down to his wayward behaviour she reveals their ongoing relationship will be mainly professional with the couple launching their Latino reality talent show Q’Viva!.
“I will always respect Marc as a singer and performer,” she said bluntly. “We actually work great together, and he was always very supportive. Together we could make magic – and we did.”
With JLo single again rumours abound that her mum Guadalupe is trying to set her up with ex-fiancé Ben Affleck, despite him being married with two children to Jennifer Garner. A source said, “She [Guadalupe] is already trying to plant the seed in Jen’s brain that she should reach out to Ben as a friend. Guadalupe knows he’s married, and it’s not like she’s telling her daughter to have an affair. She’s hoping Ben and JLo, who have stayed in touch occasionally over the years, can be there for each other to help ease the pain of divorce. Then, when that period passes, maybe they’ll be back together if he’s available again. Truth be told, I don’t think JLo hates the idea either…”
Jennifer is said to have always remained close to the actor who she once referred to as “the one” and with constant rumours that Ben’s marriage is on the rocks, Guadalupe’s dreams could be fulfilled.
But for now even with three marriages under her glitzy designer belt and one failed engagement – she was due to wed Ben in 2003 but called it off just weeks before the wedding – she remains positive about love. She insists, “I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love... it’s still my biggest dream.”
Adding about single life, “I’m determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person. I now look forward to new challenges. I feel strong.”