How to Marry a Millionaire
Listen up, ladies, we’ve uncovered the secrets to snaring an A-Lister. And, guess what? You don’t have to be a six-foot supermodel to strike it lucky!
Donna Spangler, 49, dating expert and author of How to Get a Rich Man knows a bit about men, but more precisely rich men and how to bag them. She’s even got one of her own to prove it.
“Men are attracted to women who are not only physically attractive but who also display confidence,” reveals the LA-based ex-model, who’s a beauty and wellness guru as well as a best-selling author and dating expert. And she promises it’s not as hard as it looks, as long as we wear red, go to the polo and avoid political hot potatoes as that will end in disaster!
On Your Marks…
OK, Donna, details please. Where should we be fishing for our A-List amore? “Well, you are probably not going to find a rich man in a fast food restaurant. You need to spend time with people who frequent places like high-end restaurants, polo matches, horse races, charity galas and art openings. Opening yourself up to the right places and the right crowds can introduce you to potential wealthy partners.” Oh, happy days, we’ve got all of these in the UAE. Score! “But if you are looking to find an actual celebrity, your best bet is to go to places like Los Angeles, New York, Miami, Palm Springs and other places where celebrities tend to live.” Oh, fiddlesticks, taxi to Dubai Airport, please! But how do we find them when we land? Come on, time’s ticking, Donna, we can’t afford to mess about.
Apparently, firstly we need to indulge in our favourite pastime, celebrity stalking. “The internet is a great place to see where celebrities are making appearances, where they eat, where they shop, where they are having a book signing and where they work out.” Excellent, so when’s hunting season? “During awards show season in Los Angeles is a great time to see stars out and about. They are usually popping in and out of hotels for special events and press interviews.” Excellent, thanks, Donna, advice duly noted, but some of us are getting old here at Ahlan! HQ. We need to get our new minted man down the aisle ASAP. If we’re prepared to lower our expectations from Hollywood heavyweights to plain old millionaires, would that make things easier? “Well, there are some legitimate dating services that offer opportunities to connect with rich men.” Done. Although we’re not quite ready to pay for the privilege. “You don’t have to” says Donna. “They work similar to online dating but the men pay to participate and the women do not have to pay. The women do however have to go through an intense screening process to make the cut and to be allowed to participate.” Easy, who wouldn’t want to date one of us? They’ll be queuing up.
Up Your Game
So how can we increase our chances of making the cut, aside from submitting a heavily airbrushed picture of ourselves to an online dating site. What exactly are men looking for these days? Come on, help us out here, Donna. “I think that men want someone they can respect and feel comfortable around. Most successful men are looking for a woman who can exude confidence, is polite and considerate, fun, smiles, is positive and takes care of herself and her appearance.” Righty ho, big smiles it is then. But before we unleash ourselves onto the world of rich men, what should we wear to give the impression that we’re dead sophisticated and proper wife material?
What Not to Wear
Firstly, go easy on the slap and always dress “respectable”. Oh, OK, we’ll try. So we’re assuming the miniskirts are out then? “Sexy is fine as long as it is classy and elegant. Think of someone like Nicole Kidman. She is so sexy yet she always looks exquisite.” So what exactly should we wear when we’re hunting for our millionaire? Surely we need to have some of the goods on display to net our pray? “Wear dresses that fit your body type. Not everyone can get away with form fitting dresses but for those who can, make sure they are not too short as to make you look cheap.” Also, think about the event. “Is a particular outfit appropriate for the occasion? Sequins may be okay for a formal evening event but it is probably not appropriate for a noon brunch.”
Less is More
Back away from the blusher and put down that eyebrow pencil. “So many women over apply their makeup and end up looking trashy or like a clown. Make sure your hairstyle is updated but not too young for your age. Often, when a woman reaches a certain age, longer hair can actually make her look older. If you are not sure about how you are doing in terms of clothing style, makeup and hair, ask a friend whom you trust to tell you the truth.”
Date Night Dilemma
So, what do you wear once you’ve secured the elusive first date? “You want to look sharp and appealing. Red is a great colour for a first date. There are studies that have been done that say men perceive a woman in red as being more valuable and desirable. I also think dark blue is a great colour to wear because it shows strength and confidence. At the end of the day, you need to wear outfits that make you look and feel your best. Wear something that makes you feel comfortable and confident. I would stay away from outfits that show too much cleavage. Less is better. Show them a little of what you’ve got but leave them wanting more. You want a man to desire you but also to respect you.” Crikey, it’s all getting a bit complicated, we just want someone to buy our shoes and handbags! So what do we do once we’re on the date then? Or, more likely, not do? “It is probably safe to suggest that when going on a first date or when trying to get a man’s attention, do not smoke or drink too much. You want to appear healthy and in charge of your senses. Gum chomping and foul language is not recommended either. Also, avoid controversial topics like religion and politics because these topics could create combative conversations. Always be gracious and polite. Engage in positive conversation and show an interest in his life and stories.” What a list, this sounds like a minefield, is there anything else before you release us back into the dating community? “We need to always strive to be the best we can be. Above all treat yourself with kindness.” Point noted!