Big Day Blunders Sorted!
Every bride-to-be wants her wedding day to be perfect. But as everyone knows, life can be unpredictable, and your big day is no exception. According to wedding expert Elena Karpechenko, a meetings and special events executive at The Ritz-Carlton, Dubai, the best way to avoid potential wedding day disasters is to employ a wedding planner. “If you employ a professional, you’ll never find out that the cake you’ve chosen was not baked in a bakery, but rather, bought in Carrefour on the way to the venue!” Before you start whipping out a fairy cake mix yourself, there’s no need panic. To put your bridal mind at rest, we’ve come up with the most likely let-down scenarios and how to cope with them so your day remains a success, not a mess…
1. Wedding day woe: Anyone got an umbrella?
The day before – bright blue sunshine. The big day – sudden freak sand storm that’s left a trail of dust and doom in its wake. See also: rain.
Solve it: The first thing to do is try to stay calm and positive (difficult, we know!). “At the Ritz-Carlton hotel, for every outdoor wedding, we provide a back-up plan indoors just in case the weather is bad,” explains Karpechenko who says that on one occasion when the weather was unpredictable, she calmed the bride down by sending her for a massage at the spa. “In the meantime, we set to work at moving everything indoors.” She continues, “As a wedding planner, it’s imperative that before the day you discuss all the alternative arrangements with the couple should any disasters occur to put them at ease from the start. Usually the outdoor set up can’t be completely replicated inside, but with the right thinking, it can look even more glamorous.”
2. Wedding day woe: Arrgh! Spot!
You haven’t had a teenage-style skin breakout since, well, when you were a teenager but you’ve woken up to a volcano-like eruption that you fear may be mistaken for a second head.
Solve it: Dr Nick Lowe, an internationally renowned consultant dermatologist, recommends that if you’re prone to problem skin, it’s best to see your doctor at least two months before the big day so they can give you treatment for your anticipated acne. “If you do have a dermatologist and wake-up with a breakout, the best thing would be to see them,” he explains. “If you don’t have that luxury, you can get many spot gels that will reduce redness and inflammation.” And while it may be tempting, the worst thing you could do is squeeze the spot as this will spread the bacteria. Dr Lowe’s Spot Treatment Gel, Dhs54, is available at drnicklowe.com.
3. Wedding day woe: Erm, has anyone seen the photographer?
One of the most important things on your wedding day is having the right photographer. You need one that is punctual, friendly yet assertive and great at not getting in the way. Most of all, though, you need someone who’ll turn up…
Solve it: According to Basma Al Fahim, managing director of Eventra, an event rental and planning company (eventraevents.com), it’s a good idea to assign one of your friends (perhaps one who considers themselves a bit of an amateur photographer) to take pictures alongside the photographer. “That way, if the photographer doesn’t show up, your friend will be all set to take photos on the day.” Also put disposable cameras on the tables at your reception – this will allow guests to take candid snaps of one another that, sometimes, a professional photographer can’t capture.
4. Wedding day woe: I’ve just heard a rip. From my dress!
Amazing hair? Check. Gorgeous make-up? Check. Stunning dress you’ve been squeezing yourself into for the past six months and that fits to perfection… gah. An energetic yank by your maid of honour means your precious Oscar de la Renta now comes with a rip.
Solve it: Okay, don’t panic. The first thing to do is to see if the fault is repairable. Karpechenko recommends that you, “Stay cool and go on the internet. Print some wedding dress designs and look for the details in those dresses that can be incorporated into your damaged dress such as bows, flowers or lace.” She continues, “I’d then call upon the services of a very talented tailor (there may be one in the hotel you’re staying at) who can work wonders.” If there’s no tailor around, make sure that there’s somebody in your bridal party with a small sewing box in case there are any mishaps, and who’s a dab hand with a thread and needle.
5. Wedding day woe: Those prawns tasted a bit dodgy…
A gaggle of guests queuing up for the toilets is not the residing nuptial memory you need, but unfortunately, food poisoning can strike at any time…
Solve it: “If you’re getting married in a hotel, most of them do have doctors you can call on in an emergency,” says Al Fahim. “In the meantime, the person affected from food poisoning should avoid any solid foods and just drink water to ease any stomach cramps.” Although you don’t want guests to suffer, the last thing you should do on your wedding day is to have to deal with it yourself! Hopefully, you won’t know of any dramas unfolding as your wedding planner will be dealing with it. If you don’t have a planner, assign somebody from your wedding party prior to your big day to deal with any unforeseen problems.
6. Wedding day woe: I was fine…now I’m freaking out!
You’re excited, happy… terrified! Suddenly the prospect of all eyes watching you as you walk down the aisle fills you with fear. And there’s 10 minutes to go.
Solve it: It’s important to remember that however relaxed you are as a person, it’s only natural to feel a little apprehensive in the lead up to your wedding and on the day itself. The way to deal with this is to be prepared. Top wedding planner Mark Niemierko (niemierko.com), who has over 10 years experience within the event industry, says the key to combating nerves is ironing out any worries you might have before the wedding. “If you don’t have a wedding planner, have a close friend/sister or bridesmaid on hand to take the pressure off you. Also do a ceremony rehearsal the day before so you can actually walk through the most nerve wracking part of the day in advance.” He continues, “And if you do end up slipping up on your vows, the most important thing is not to panic. “It simply shows emotion. Think about it – the last thing you want to look like is a wooden actor on your wedding day.”
7. Wedding day woe: Will you all stop shouting?!
You imagined spending your wedding morning sipping champagne with your bridesmaids. Instead, your bridesmaids are more interested in bickering... and you’re caught in the middle.
Solve it: “If an argument breaks out over something like who’s getting their hair and make-up done first, this is easy to avoid,” says wedding coordinator Siobhan Craven-Robins, (siobhancraven-robins.co.uk). “I work out the hair and make-up schedule before the big day, but if you don’t have one, do this yourself to avoid problems – and make sure the bride’s word is final! Should rows surface, try to avoid them as much as possible.” After all, your job is only to be fabulous on the day…